tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83320688737618666802024-03-13T07:28:55.883-07:00WomenSpeakThanatas Thanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11582006350428173327noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8332068873761866680.post-69403581067318118112012-10-04T03:24:00.002-07:002012-10-04T03:24:45.538-07:00Understanding "The Mask"Okay guys, let's talk about a topic I'm sure you've had to unfortunate chance to experience. It's that moment when you know that you've done something wrong, simply because your woman has suddenly put on <i>The Mask.</i><br />
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Now, for those of you men who are not already nodding your heads, let me briefly explain. The "mask", is a metaphor for the poker face that a woman takes on, when she is concealing her true emotions. It's the "happy face" that hides a hidden monster, lurking and waiting to pounce.... Or so it can seem at times. <i>The Mask</i> is usually complemented by the phrase "I'm fine" or "No, nothings wrong", and is often accompanied by <i>distance</i>. She acts and says everything is okay, but you can <i>tell</i> that something is definitely <i>not</i> okay.<br />
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If you're like most men, you probably start to back away very slowly, as if you had just been confronted by a mother grizzly bear. As you back away, you pray that she won't start to charge you, but just when you think you've nearly made it into the clear, she comes from out of nowhere with largest paw, full of razor sharp claws, and there is <i>nothing</i> you can do to escape...<br />
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Okay! So now it's time to get real.<br />
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Let me tell you something about us women, that will help you overcome "The Mask", anytime you find yourself facing her.<br />
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The thing about <i>the mask</i>, is that we learn to put it on, from our mother's and other women role models in our lives. It's an ancient secret, passed on from woman to woman, though not consciously of course. We don't sit our daughters down and teach them to "put on the mask". No, it usually happens because we as daughters, watch how our mothers are with the men in their lives. If they're married, there is definitely going to be some 'masking'. And the only reason for that, is because the longer we are with a man, the more he gets to know us, and the more we subconsciously transform our masks to conceal our emotions even better.<br />
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If our mothers were single parents, the mask might be more confusing, as it molds to fit each man around. If we grew up with single dads, which isn't as common, but common enough, then we probably will see some great examples of masks, because the women our fathers try to date, will have to be wary of not being manipulated by the power of daughters (trust me, little girls have great power with their dads, if you're a dad, you know what I mean).<br />
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Realistically, we can't kid ourselves, as everyone man, woman and other, have a mask they wear. Though for the purposes of this blog post, it's women whom have been hurt in relationships, that often wear the most concealing masks. If you're reading this post, then you know well what I mean.<br />
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To reiterate, the best masks are developed through emotional trauma. The more trials and tribulations a woman has been through, the better she gets at wearing her <i>mask</i>. Every break up, every infidelity, every time she feels she's been taken for granted or used.<br />
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Now, I will tell you right now, that <i>mask</i> is not all bad. It's an evolutionary skill, and was designed for many reasons, and has many uses, like when she's interviewing for an important career. The sad truth, even though the mask does have some benefits, is that the mask doesn't help in a relationship, at least not where <i>passionate love </i>is concerned. It's useful if you only have a <i>companionship</i> that you're pretending or desperately trying to believe is passionate <i>love</i>. The challenge there though, is recognizing the <i>difference</i> between passionate love and companionship.<br />
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You, as her loving and doting man, whom is searching for ways to connect with her on a deeper level, by searching on the internet for help - are obviously interested in her for much more than just a lifetime or boring companionship. Sure, that's to be <i>included</i>, but companionship should be a part of the package, not the package <i>itself</i>.<br />
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So let's cut to the chase, and I'll tell you what you really need to know.<br />
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The <i>last</i> thing you want to do when a mother bear has spotted you, is to <i>run</i>. In fact, running away is a good way to get her even more pissed off, and 90% of the time, it's the reason that you get side-swiped with her emotional claws when she can't hold it in anymore.<br />
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No, as any good survivalist knows, the best way to handle a stare down with a bear, is to make yourself look as big, tough and difficult as you can. Now, while obviously you don't want your woman to know we're relating her to an angry mother grizzly bear, the truth is that getting past her <i>mask</i> requires similar tactics. You still need to be <i>tough</i>, but not in a macho way. You need to be tough by being <i>brave</i>. When you're woman is wearing her mask, it's because she feels hurt. You may or may not know why she's feeling hurt, but the key is that you know she's feeling hurt, and that you don't run from her when she's feeling hurt. She actually needs you <i>more</i> when she's wearing her mask, then when she's not.<br />
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In fact, the #1 reason why women put on the mask with the man they love, is because she's afraid she's been too openly emotional, and that you might take her for granted if she is to be completely open with you. That in some strange way, by her telling you she loves you, and by wanting to touch you and feed you and be with you, that you'll leave her for "over-loving" you. That sort of thing might be true with a man whose only out for <i>companionship</i>, but a man who is <i>truly</i> in passionate love with a women, does not mind that she wants to bath him in her love. The second most common reason, is because she's been trying to <i>communicate</i> with you, using subtle woman tactics, and they haven't been working. Maybe she wants you to plan a short weekend getaway, to have some romance. Or it could be as simple as her wanting you to kiss her more passionately, like you used too, but because you want to, and not because she wants you to or told you that's what she wants.<br />
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It's crazy inside the mind of a woman sometimes. And I can understand your fearful reproach at times, but trust me, once you have some understanding, it's easy to overcome.<br />
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Now, with a bear you need to be <i>Big </i>and <i>Difficult</i>. With a woman, that translates to you needing to be <i>Masculine</i> and <i>Persistent. </i>Combine all three for Courage, Masculinity and Persistence. You need to be courageous, because your woman is hurt, and she's wants to let go of this grief, hurt and disappointment, but she isn't sure how. With that confusion comes anger, and with that anger comes the <i>mask</i> and a wall of <i>protection</i>. She doesn't realize that she has all this armor, but now <i>you</i> <i>do</i> and that's what is important. You can now use that new <i>knowledge</i> to recognize that getting past that mask is not going to seem easy the first few times. It's not exactly difficult either, but that's where the <i>persistence</i> and courage comes in. You need to realize now, that she is going to use every tactic she can, to hurt you in the same way she feels hurt. This will multiply by the number of days she's been wearing the <i>mask</i>. Trust me though, going this route will be well worth the reward, and won't hurt nearly as much as if you followed your first instinct and ran.<br />
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The key here, is to remember that nothing she says or does is grounded in logic, and most of it isn't even about you. Although you may have had a hand in the trigger, most of the mask is about <i>years</i> of emotional build up. So do your best not to take it personally, and every time she tries something, like calling you names and focusing in on one of your faults, just tell her that you love her, and that she should continue to say anything that she wants to say. If she asks you a question and wants a meaningful answer, do your best to give her one. If she asks you to do something different, or change in some way, don't just blow it off, she's serious and you should be too. This moment is critical, because she's telling you what she <i>needs</i> from you. Your ability to give it to her, makes the difference between a passionate love and a companionship. Pass her test and prove to her that your <i>love</i> for her is <i>real</i> and it's <i>passionate</i>.<br />
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Once the mask is almost cleared, and you'll know by the softening look in her eyes, it's time to be the man you were <i>made</i> to be. Use your masculine energy to give her <i>that look</i>. The look that <i>says</i> it all. It's not just any look. It's the look that you give to a woman that says, "I love you, no matter what. I'm not going anywhere, and I will not run. <i>I am yours, and you are mine</i>." It's a lot of things to say in one look, but you did it before when you won her over the first few times, and you can do it again. Give her <i>that look</i>, then move in and grasp her with your manly arms. Love her like the man you <i>really</i> are, without fear and without hesitation, then watch the mask simply <i>melt away.</i>....Thanatas Thanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11582006350428173327noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8332068873761866680.post-25684538348243175492012-05-09T00:22:00.001-07:002012-05-14T23:55:47.765-07:00What Every Woman REALLY Wants<div style="text-align: center;">Do you really want to know? <u>REALLY</u>?</div><br />
Because the truth is, that once you know, you can't go back to not knowing. You can't go on through your relationship without doing anything to give her what it is she REALLY wants. You'll feel compelled, even if it's only inch by inch, to do more, be more and act in the ways that you will know deep down that she really wants you to act like. That is the price of <b>knowing</b>, and the only one I will charge you. No other compensation will be accepted, and the price cannot be refunded once you have read these words and consumed this information. So turn away now if you fear change, happiness or bliss.<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">Are you ready? I hope so.</div><br />
The truth is an interesting power, and since I want to help you - and your woman - have the best relationship you can, I want to share this secret with you. I want to let it out, so feel free to spread the word, and add your own little twist - though more importantly, be accepting and open, and don't forget to do what I tell you!<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">So here it is, the BIG Secret:</div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;">What every woman <i>really</i>, <b>truly</b>, <i style="color: purple;"><b>endlessly</b></i> wants... is.... </div><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: blue;">Really?</span> That's it? <span style="color: red;">Oh come on</span>!</div><br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-XqMDTjboodQ/T7H936AQjjI/AAAAAAAAAT0/VRbm5Qia4c4/s1600/adult+red+riding+hood.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-XqMDTjboodQ/T7H936AQjjI/AAAAAAAAAT0/VRbm5Qia4c4/s1600/adult+red+riding+hood.jpg" /></a></div>No really, that IS it. Every woman wants to be in her very own fairy tale, complete with a wicked witch, perilous journey's and her very own prince charming. She wants to be wrapped up in a world where there are puzzles and conundrums that only she can solve. She wants a room the size of a mansion that she can fill with all her books, trophies and weapons. She wants to be put to the test, push all of her perceived limitations and still come out on top in the eyes of her beloved, who never leaves her side throughout all her crazy adventures.<br />
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She wants her prince charming to plan as if they'll be together forever, but love her as if tomorrow was always the last day on earth. In her fairy tale - love is always fresh, passionate and urgent. Prince charming ALWAYS wants his maiden and no one else. In her fairy tale, she is always needed by her family, but there is always reprieve from her motherly duties when the evening comes. For when the daylight crosses the threshold into twilight, she knows there will great big balls where she can dance away her cares as her prince passionately leads her across the room in front of a crowd of astonished socialites, all whom continue to whisper about their wonder of how this beautiful young woman could be so amazing as to have the life they all lust for.<br />
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And when it's time for the night to come to an end, when the courtiers, kings and debutants are done kissing her rings and telling her how wonderful her parties always are, and it's time to ready for bed, the princess easily shifts into the queen, who seductively lures her king towards the bed chambers. The king encourages all of her advances, cooing and purring with excitement. As their bodies meet with the chamber doors, she slips from her strong kings arms and sneaks off to the bathroom to get into something more comfortable. Knowing her king is waiting lustfully for her, she hurries to go in, where she knows he will caress and kiss every part of her body.<br />
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Once out of the bathroom, she nearly sprints the short hall from their bathroom to their bedroom, passionately seeking the warmth of her partner. But when she reaches the threshold of their chambers, in the blink of an eye she sees the evil glare of a sordid sorceress who wraps her arms around the king and shimmers him from the room, giving the princess no time to react or save her prince....<br />
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From there, the only thing left to do, is to gather her weapons, books and magic and journey out into the great wide world to rescue her prince, if she can...<br />
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Okay, you get the idea. The princess journey's off to rescue her prince, but in the end he ends up rescuing her and then ravishing her until the sunrise, whence the cycle begins again. This is probably old news. You probably already know that woman are very "imagination" based creature, that we all have various fantasies that we wish would play out in the real world. Though I bet you've never really understood what that all REALLY means.<br />
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This is important, because even though you <i>know</i> that she <b><i>what</i></b> she wants, you only know the surface of it. And in order for you to pay your penance to me, you must know <b><i>more.</i></b> You must know the complex <b><i>details</i></b>.<br />
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You must know that she doesn't only want to play the pure Princess. It's <b><i>not enough</i></b> to shift into the seductive Queen. She wants <i>more</i> than save and be saved by her prince. That's right, that woman who holds the apple of your eye, she also wants to play the part of the warrioress, riding high and mighty with the Valkyries. She wants to <i>be</i> the wicked witch, who is allowed to be completely free in the embrace of her own lustful darkside. She wants to be the sexy sorceress, who has men on their knees as they beg for the chance to have a moment of her time. She wants to be the spoiled daughter, the proud mother, the wise sage, the crooked crone and the fair maiden.<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">She wants <i style="color: purple;"><u><span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">ALL OF THE ABOVE</span></u></i></div><br />
<span style="color: red;">WAIT!</span> <u>Don't click away from this blog yet!</u> You're <i>not done</i> learning yet, but fear not! There is only a little more to go, and if you can make it through it, you will be greatly rewarded.<br />
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You see, even deeper in all of this, and more complicating, is the Paradox, which must be made clear. The paradox that every woman desires, is not just to play all the roles of all the women in her fairy tale - but also that she wants her precious prince to play all the roles of the men that twist and wind their way through her fanciful mind. That's right! She <i>doesn't</i> just want her prince to be charming, loyal and handsome. No! Perfection would be way too boring, and although no woman on earth would easily and openly admit it to their men, it is still true.<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">It is still true that she wants to <i>suspect.</i> </div><div style="text-align: center;">She wants to be <i><span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">fearful.</span></i> </div><div style="text-align: center;">She wants to be<i><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"> angry</span></i>. </div><div style="text-align: center;">She wants to experience <i>EVERY</i> <span style="color: purple;">emotion</span> </div><div style="text-align: center;"><i>EVERY</i> <span style="color: lime;">experience</span> </div><div style="text-align: center;"><i>EVERY</i> <span style="color: red;">challenge </span> that can be hand, </div><div style="text-align: center;"><u><i>with</i></u> the love of her life. </div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">And NO, that doesn't mean she wants to catch or find her prince in the arms of another lover. No, that would go too far. Though there is<i style="font-family: "Courier New",Courier,monospace;"> nothing </i>more <i style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="color: purple;">a</span><span style="color: lime;">ll</span><span style="color: red;">u</span><span style="color: blue;">ri</span><span style="color: #274e13;">n</span><span style="color: purple;">g</span></i> then a man who is <i>mysterious</i>. Nothing more <i>challenging</i> then the defense of <i>love</i>. <i>Nothing</i> more romantic than an <span style="color: purple;">enchanted</span> prince who only manages to <span style="background-color: white; color: #cc0000;">break the spell</span> by the power of his heart which holds his <span style="color: magenta;">true love</span> for <i>his</i> Princess. </div><br />
Not only does she want her man to be all that, but she also wants him to be the graciously jealous type, who is someone able to contain his internal rage when she flirts innocently with another man, but she can always tell that it would only take the tiniest trigger to send him off after any potential threats to his relationship.<br />
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You see, all of this fits in to her fantasy. She wants a man who can not only protect her, but who can also test her, to keep her in check with her own paradoxial desires for both freedom and commitment at the same time. <br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">She wants the whole fairy tale fantasy in every way.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">And now that you know this,</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">it's time to pay the piper</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">and <a href="http://bizgengirl.hubpages.com/_Bizhubtracker/hub/What-EVERY-Woman-Wants-and-HOW-to-Give-It-To-Her" target="_blank">Give Her What She Really Wants</a></div>Thanatas Thanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11582006350428173327noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8332068873761866680.post-58659752272023472102012-05-07T22:59:00.000-07:002012-05-07T22:59:33.276-07:00What she means when she asks, "What do you think of this shirt?"You've only got one of two options here if she's asking you about her apparel. Either she feels damn sexy in that shirt, those shorts or whatever else it is she's wearing, and she wants you to confirm how good she feels. Or she's not sure if what she is wearing is worth the discomfort of wearing it.<br />
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Either way, you're answer should be, "Meow!" (and then make a genuine compliment)<br />
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Absolutely, whatever you do, DO NOT say, "You look good in anything babe," or any other cliche's of that nature. You'd be better to offer her a shirt you would like her to wear, then to use a tired cliche.Thanatas Thanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11582006350428173327noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8332068873761866680.post-10740325200499848452012-04-28T22:45:00.000-07:002012-04-28T22:45:54.415-07:00When she says..... "Let me know when you'll be home...."<div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">No guys, the woman who says this, is NOT trying to keep your tether too tight. No, when she asks you to give her a ring, send her a text or in some other way give her notice that you're going to be heading home, what she is really trying to tell you is one of two things:</div><div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">Translation A:</span> <span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: small;">"I'm in '<i>the mood</i>', and I want to change into something more comfortable before you get home..."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">Translation B: </span>"I have something planned for you when you get home, and you'll like it."<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">Either way, you'll be in for a good treat when you get home, IF and I emphasis that "IF", you don't blow it by assuming she just wants to keep tabs on you, ruin your evening or just not answer her call or message. If you do any of those, you're going to turn <i>'the mood</i>' into a '<i>that</i> mood', and no one wants that, now do they?</span>Thanatas Thanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11582006350428173327noreply@blogger.com0